41: 5 Ways to Love Your Kids When You Don't Like Them
Let\u2019s get real\u2026 We would all die for our kids. We love them so much our hearts physically ache at the mere thought of something bad happening to them.\xa0And we know we could not survive without them.\xa0\n\xa0\nBut, sometimes we don\u2019t like them.\xa0\n\xa0\nWhen Vinnie smacked my upside the head with a toy car recently, I didn\u2019t really like him for a few minutes.\xa0\n\xa0\nThe next day when he kicked me in the mouth, I didn\u2019t adore him so much.\n\xa0\nSometimes at bedtime, when I\u2019m heading upstairs for the umpteenth time to give another sip of water, or help him try to poop one more time, or find a misplaced toy, or adjust the cracked door so it\u2019s not too open and not too closed, I want to gouge my eyes out.\xa0\n\xa0\nOn today\u2019s episode I talk through 5 Ways to Love Your Kids When You Don\u2019t Like Them.\xa0We\u2019ve all been there.\xa0And sorry to break it to you \u2013 but you\u2019re gonna be there again \u2013 probably sometime today.\xa0\n\xa0\nHere\u2019s how you can love your child when his/her behavior has you dreaming of solo beach vacation with unlimited drinks:\n\xa0\n1. Speak their language\nKnow where they are developmentally\nTalk about feelings & emotions\nInvite cuddles and conversation\n\xa0\n2. Learn their currency\nToys\nFood\nActivities \u2013 parks, games, shows, etc\n\xa0\n3. Take space\nTag team with your partner\nHave routine time off/help\nUse back up care as needed\n\xa0\n4. Take care of YOU\nSleep\nExercise\nNutrition\xa0\n\xa0\n5. Keep Learning\nRead books\xa0\nAttend talks\nConnect with parents who have same age kids (live parent groups or FB groups)\nTake time to reflect on what\u2019s working and what\u2019s not\n\xa0\nWe\u2019re all doing the best we can, but you can\u2019t do it all without your tool box.\xa0Ask for help and support.\xa0Know you\u2019ll screw up.\xa0Stay open to learning and evolving. Be committed to doing your best. Keep the wine close by.\nYou can read the full show notes and access all the links and resources at www.shamelessmom.com\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices