351: Dreaming, Doing & Decisiveness

Published: July 8, 2019, 7 a.m.

There is a huge difference between dreaming and doing.\xa0Yet, sometimes we confuse the two.\xa0\nDreaming lives in your head and your heart.\nDreaming doesn\u2019t have a plan.\nDreaming is passive.\nDreaming doesn\u2019t have a start date.\nDreaming doesn\u2019t keep you accountable.\nDreaming is not an accomplishment.\nDreaming is picture perfect and linear, a series of perfect steps that take you to a perfect destination.\nDreaming is future-oriented.\xa0It\u2019s about later\u2026 when you have time when the kids are older when the circumstances are juuuuust so.\nDreaming is outcome focused.\nDreaming feels indulgent and delightful, like something you might not even be worthy of.\nIn contrast\u2026\nDoing is your dream in action.\nDoing is a plan.\nDoing has a start date, as well as an end date.\nDoing keeps you accountable.\nDoing is an accomplishment.\nDoing is not linear, its a series of highs and lows and lefts and rights and a few wrong turns that take you to a beautifully imperfect place that you\u2019re ridiculously proud of.\nDoing is action oriented.\nDoing is present-oriented, not future-oriented.\nDoing is step focused - not outcome focused - where you\u2019re always considering, \u201cwhat is my next right step?\u201d\nDoing feels scary, exciting, nerve-wracking, determined, and disciplined.\nDreaming definitely serves a purpose.\xa0It provides:\n\nHope\n\nVision\n\nClarity\n\nJoy\n\nEscape\n\nDoing serves a transformative experience:\n\nSense of pride\n\nSense of momentum\n\nSense of accomplishment\n\nIncreased self-worth\n\nNew/evolved sense of identity\n\nAt the crux of dreaming vs doing is a lot of decision making.\xa0I would argue that decisiveness is the biggest struggle of doing.\xa0Making decisions toward your dreams (the doing) can be crippling.\xa0But for the doing to take place, the decisions must be made.\xa0You must become a DECISION MAKER AND AN ACTION TAKER.\xa0It is the only path to your dreams.\xa0Listen in to hear how to learn how to become a better decision maker and action taker - in order to be a DOER who realizes all her dreams.\xa0\nLinks mentioned:\nShameless Mom Con WaitList\nThank you to our sponsors:\n\n\nThird Love: To find the perfect fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase got to Third Love\n\n\n\nBarkBox: Get a FREE EXTRA MONTH of Barkbox with any 6 or 12-month subscription by visiting BarkBox\n\n\n\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices