327: Mom Guilt Is A Lie
This is going to sound pretty controversial, but I\u2019m saying it anyway.\xa0Because of #truth...\nMom guilt is a lie.\nThat\u2019s not to say your feelings of guilt aren\u2019t real.\xa0THEY ARE.\nBut, as you sit in those feelings, please know this:\nMom guilt is a social construct in which women are indoctrinated to think they should feel bad for ever prioritizing themselves, their identity, their careers, or their happiness over their kids.\nYou know how I know this is true??\xa0Because I know the following:\nMen are not asked, \u201cHow do you do it all?\xa0How do you juggle your career with your family?\nMen are not asked, \u201cDon\u2019t you feel bad when you have to travel for work and you don\u2019t get to see your kids for 3 days?\u201d\nMen don\u2019t have to internalize messages like, \u201cI don\u2019t know how you work so much.\xa0I would feel so bad not being at my kid\u2019s games/practices/plays/recitals.\u201d\nWhen men consider taking up new hobbies/activities they don\u2019t automatically think, \u201cThat would be awesome, but I would feel so bad taking that time away from my family.\u201d\nWomen are indoctrinated to feel like shitty moms if they prioritize their careers, their self-care, their sanity over their families needs.\xa0\nMen are encouraged to prioritize their careers and hobbies over their families needs - \u201cClimb that corporate ladder!\u201d\xa0\u201cYou gotta start golfing with us, man!\u201d\xa0\u201cMeet us every Saturday for pick up basketball!\u201d\nI share this all because I want you to take a hard look at your relationship with mom guilt.\xa0Guilt of any kind is not productive.\xa0It keeps us stuck.\xa0It holds us back.\xa0It does not serve any positive purpose.\xa0So, it you\u2019re spending time stuck in mom guilt, you\u2019re wasting time and energy that could be used for so many other positive things in your life.\xa0\nLet\u2019s flip this social construct on its head so we can all be more intentional about how we use our energy, our gifts, and our rights to rest (yes, you get to rest more when you stop feeling so damn guilty!)\nListen in to this episode to go on a deep dive into how you\u2019ve been indoctrinated - and how to GET OUT.\xa0\nLinks mentioned:\nBook: Drop The Ball by Tiffany Dufu\n\nThank you to our sponsors:\n\n\nBioclarity: Go to BioClarity to get 40% off skincare routines PLUS an additional 15% off EVERYTHING on their website when you use my code LOVELY at checkout.\n\n\nThird Love: To find the perfect fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase got to Third Love.\n\n\n\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices