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This week we discussed cognitive distortions with Adam Borechy. Usually cognitive behavioral therapists deal with cognitive distortions by helping their clients identify habitual negative thoughts and and putting those thoughts on trial. We don\u2019t have to accept every thought that passes through our brains as truth. When we have distressing thoughts, it can be helpful to consider if we might be telling ourselves the full truth about a situation.

We refer to common cognitive distortions\u2014depression, anxiety, feelings of failure, negative thoughts when interacting with people, social anxiety\u2014and we see how they are applying to our thought process.

For a PDF of the cognitive distortions and a 8 days journal task towards better identifying them in your life, please see my resource page. In this 8 day journey you will better identify your own troubling thoughts and move towards gratitude.

Here are a list of the cognitive distortions:

All or nothing thinking: things are black and white, completely without shades of gray. \xa0For example, you may think, \u201cIf I am not perfect, I should not try at all, because then I would fail completely.\u201d Or you might think, \u201cMy significant other is completely evil.\u201d And then the next day, \u201cMy significant other is perfect.\u201d \xa0

Overgeneralization: generalizations are made without context, experience or evidence. \xa0\u201cI am always alone.\u201d \xa0Or \u201cEveryone hates me.\u201d \xa0\u201cI never win.\u201d Always? Never? \xa0Everyone? It happens absolutely all the time, without exceptions? In the moment, it can feel like that, but those statements are actually rarely true. Speaking truth to yourself in this case might look like: I am sometimes alone, several people are upset at me, I win sometimes, even if I didn\u2019t this time.

Mental Filter: focusing on the negative rather than the whole picture. After receiving multiple positive statements and one negative statement, all you focus on is the negative statement. \xa0

Disqualifying the positive: When you do something good like get a compliment or award, you instantly find ways to make less of it! For example, if someone says, \u201cYou are looking good today,\u201d but instantly you assume that person is giving you a false compliment. \xa0

Jumping to conclusions (without evidence): reaching conclusions (usually negative) without little evidence.

ind reading: assuming you know what the person is thinking about you. \xa0Connection occurs from accurately knowing another, and with mindreading you blind yourself without evidence.

Fortune telling: predicting negative things in the future. \xa0For example you think \u201cI am going to fail this test even if I study,\u201d so you don\u2019t try, don\u2019t study, and don\u2019t even show up.

Magnification or Minimization: you make some weakness of yours much larger than it is or a strength much less than it really is. For example you see your friends as beautiful whereas you see your own beauty as very average.

Emotional Reasoning: believe that your feelings reflect reality. For example, \u201cI feel stupid, therefore I am.\u201d or \u201cI feel fearful of flying in planes therefore they must be dangerous,\u201d or \u201cI feel ugly therefore I am ugly despite what others tell me.\u201d \xa0

Shoulding: a thing that you believe you should or should not do, often created to try to maintain an image of yourself which is more in line with social pressures. For example, \u201cI should be perfect,\u201d \u201cI should never cry,\u201d \u201cI should always win,\u201d \u201cI should be able to do this on the first try.\u201d

Personalization: blaming oneself for a bad event without looking at external factors that contributed to the bad event. Attributing personal responsibility to things that you have no control over, or when you do not see all the things that caused something. For example, a friend is upset so you think it is something you caused or are responsible for. \xa0

Error Messages: thoughts that are like obsessive compulsive disorder due to having thoughts that are repetitive, intrusive and not meaningful.\xa0

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