When you ask most people what they are looking for in a mate, they will begin reciting a lists of character traits they find desirable and things they must have in a relationship. \xa0However, when you ask the same people to describe the people they've been in a relationship with and many times you hear things that are not what they said they wanted in a partner.\n Why is there a disconnect between what we say we want and what we actually accept?\n Michael Cunningham joins us to discuss this topic and his book the Five F principals and how they apply to our relationships.