EP090: Functional Relationships with Aaron and Jocelyn Freeman
Sachin is excited to introduce Jocelyn and Aaron Freeman to the audience. They met through the Genius Network and it seemed a serendipitous series of events, enough so that they found the Universe was bringing them together!
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The Freemans are sought-after relationship coaches, and have worked with celebrity couples, public figures, and thousands of couples around the world, and have shared the stage with Tony Robbins.
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They join the show today to share practical tools and situational examples to help you improve your relationship.
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Key Takeaways:
[:45] Sachin welcomes the Freemans to this episode and gives a little bit of background on how they met before diving right into who they are and what they do!
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[5:17] Your grand vision takes time, energy, and support from others, so do relationships \u2014 especially in times like these where we\u2019re all cooped up together.
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[8:20] Be mindful of the effort you put into the relationship as well as the part of yourself you dedicate to them.
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[9:33] Your assumptions about your partner\u2019s level of satisfaction may be erroneous. Aaron explains why your answer to the question \u201dHow is your relationship going?\u201d may be a poor reflection of the reality as well.
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[10:55] Self-assessment: give yourself a score on how you\u2019ve been doing in your relationship when it comes to:
- Communication
- Conflict
- Connection
If you want the full picture, try it with your partner!
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[15:08] Skill 1! Does this pandemic have you feeling like you live with a roommate? The Freemans offer a path to finding more romance \u2014 and no, it isn\u2019t candles \u2014 it starts with raising your level of identification.
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[20:18] A relationship or partnership is its own entity, like a business. A vision statement for your relationship is a good start \u2014 you can even include your kids!
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[25:03] Skill 2! Dating? Flowers? Gifts? Those are bonuses, and it turns out romance isn\u2019t tied to those. The Freemans offer that you should check into your love account for an imbalance between withdrawals and deposits.They also offer tangible examples of how you can increase your deposits and prevent unnecessary withdrawals.
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[31:33] Skill 3! Don\u2019t let it linger! Working through dissatisfaction quickly will improve behavior. Satisfaction check-ins are a great tool to add to your work belt, The Freemans offer their worksheet as a base to start with.
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[38:06] Skill 4! Disagreements\u2026 Acknowledging that you cannot influence real change when coming in from a negative standpoint. Jocelyn and Aaron share the ways you can in fact improve your chances of influence through empathy.
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[44:36] Accountability, consistency, and proactivity are key to making certain your relationship objectives are reached. The Freemans touch on three steps that can help you find empathy for your partner during disagreements.
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[51:14] The 4 communication personality types! For a deeper dive into those, as well as an opportunity to win some free stuff, grab the book: The Argument Hangover.
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[53:39] The Freemans open up a Q&A with the audience and Sachin opens up with his first question!
- Do you have any tips for introducing these concepts into the home?
- How do you have deep conversations with a partner that goes silent in those situations?
- The Couples Workshop/dates? Do you have an affiliate program?
- How do you implement these tools when things are heated?
- What to do if a partner says they\u2019re interested in personal development but they don\u2019t follow through?
- What\u2019s the most common issue you see with couples and how do you guide them?
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[1:16:55] Sachin thanks today\u2019s guests for their wonderful and useful insights and signs off until next time.
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Mentioned in this episode
The Argument Hangover, by Jocelyn and Aaron Freeman
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More about your guest
Learn more about Aaron and Jocelyn on Meet the Freemans and find them on LinkedIn
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More about your host Sachin Patel
How to speak with Sachin
Go one step further and Become The Living Proof
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Books by Sachin Patel: