131: Inner Game, Journaling and Coaching with Kim Ades
Kim Ades from Frame of Mind Coaching\xa0shares her secrets to identifying internal problems, overcoming limiting beliefs and challenging our thinking through journaling and getting a coach. She also tells us how to make huge changes in our own lives and shares how she setup her\xa0coaching business.\n\nDisplay TranscriptRobert Plank: Today we're going to talk to a author, speaker, entrepreneur and mother of five. Her name is Kim Ades. She is the president and founder of Frame of Mind coaching and she's recognized as one of North America's foremost experts on performance through thought mastery. So Kim, I'm Robert, welcome to the show.\n\nKim Ades: I'm really, super excited to be talking to you today. Thank you for having me on your show.\n\nRobert Plank: Heck yeah, I am right there with you. I know nothing about you, so can you fill us in on your website, yourself, what you do, what makes you unique and special?\n\nKim Ades: I live in Toronto. I have five kids, as you mentioned. I run a coaching company called Frame of Mind coaching, we coach the highly driven population that is moving and shaking and highly frustrated. That's who we coach and we really look at their thinking and how their thinking is impacting their results. One of the big things we do when we coach people is we ask them to journal every single day for the duration of the coaching period and they share their journals with their coach. We go back and forth every single day. It's pretty intense and it's very very intimate.\n\nRobert Plank: Cool, so how did you come across this? What's basically your journey been? How were things out of balanced or misaligned years ago versus where you've come, where you are now?\n\nKim Ades: I mean, historically, I used to own a software company. We used to build simulation-based assessments and the purpose of those assessments were to help companies make better hiring decisions. One of the pieces of my past is that we conducted hundreds of thousands of assessments and collected a lot of interesting data. The data said to us that there was really one main distinction between top performers and others. It didn't matter what field, it didn't matter what level of job we were looking at or what industry and that one distinction was if that person had a higher degree of emotional resilience, their likelihood of success was dramatically higher than the rest of the population. So that's one part of my past. The other part of my past is more personal. I was married, had a tough marriage towards the end, ended up getting divorced and my life exploded.\n\nI owned my last company with my ex-husband, ended up having to sell my shares and I had to recreate my life and one of the ways I did it was through the process of journaling. I journaled just to get everything out of my brain, all the worries, all the fears, all the anger, all the frustration, all the anxiety, all of it. I started to realized that journaling is very very powerful tool to help people move to a new place. That's how I, when I started Frame of Mind Coaching, I incorporated journaling from the get-go.\n\nRobert Plank: I mean, with all this journaling stuff, I kind of go back to it every now and then. I always hear about it, I hear it's this good thing to do, but I don't have a very good system or structure to do it consistently. Do you have some kind of formula like is there a set like a time of day you do it, is there a set prompt or is it a set length of wordage, length of time? What's the process for this journaling stuff for you?\n\nKim Ades: There's so many different things. When we journal with our clients, they journal every day. They can pick whatever time of day they like. A lot of my clients journal right before bed. It's a funny thing, but that's when they journal. Their whole day is past and now they're doing a download so I have that. I have another set of clients that journal right in the morning, but remember this is journaling with your coach, so every time they journal,