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I'm going in for surgery on the ankle today (Friday) and it has me thinking a lot about being negative (or rather, avoiding or "fixing" that negativity that creeps up), being honest and owning up to things like procrastinating without labeling and feeling sorry for yourself, so you can actually make progress on yourself -- because no one else will do it for you.\n\nAs internet marketers, we need to motivate ourselves. Let's be real... sometimes stuff just happens.\n\nYou have to find the good in situations, get some perspective, and be honest without feeling sorry for yourself and labeling your situations or the emotions. Then, you are better able to look at things in a positive light.\nBe Honest With Yourself\nThis is probably the most important thing we're going to talk about today.\xa0Just think about how you would answer these questions and we're going to talk about some solutions afterwards.\n\n \tDo you find yourself filtering out the positive things that happen to you? Or, do you minimize all the good things while only focusing on one negative circumstance?\n \tDo you blame yourself for everything that happens, even if it is out of your control?\n \tDo you always expect the worst in any situation?Do you only see things in terms of black and white?\n\nIf any of these 4 things apply to you, then you might have some negativity problems. Let's talk about some ways to combat those.\nApproaches, Strategies and Solutions\nDo you have a support system that gets you out of that "rut" you sometimes fall into?\xa0It's tough to go it alone. Just explaining the problem or the frustration itself can help you get past it.\n\nAre you preventing the problem before it even happens?\xa0"Play out" the scenarios of what could happen. A good strategy here is to make a list of the "enemies" you're fighting against and categorize the fears. Out of those, what's the simplest one to take care of?\nLet's say your situation is that you're going to be broke and your fears about it are losing your car, your marriage breaking up, and becoming homeless. Which one of these can you work on first and easiest?\n\nA lot of the issues that led you to a problem are by you not getting out of your comfort zone or not having real goals to drive you.\n\nLet's use the money example again. You are basing all of your income hopes on this one product launch and it doesn't go well and you're afraid you're going to lose it all.\nThen, it would be time to get out of your comfort zone and do things you might not want to do so you don't lose your shirt. Things like joining Fiverr, freelancing, getting a part-time job, etc.\xa0"Always do what you're afraid to do."\n\nAre you aware of simple mindset tools?\xa0It's simple. There are simple mindset tools and strategies all over the place-you can just search the internet for "self-help mindset."\xa0For Robert, there's no one solution. There's probably 5 or 6 at any given time. it's a matter of identifying which one works for the situation.\n\nA mindset is also called "a state", which is a collection of emotions that can get you thinking and acting in a certain way.\xa0Sometimes you just need to "change your state." Maybe you've been in front of the computer for too long working on a problem. Go for a drive. Go to a movie.\n\nIt might also mean removing the triggers that put you in that state. If you get in a \u2018bad mood' from something that you can remove, then do so.\n\nThink about the words you're using.\xa0We tend to describe "positive" feelings in one syllable words, like "good" while we use big words for negative feelings. Start replacing the \u2018positive' feelings with big words, like \u2018fantastic', \u2018fabulous', etc. They're less automatic, meaning we have to think about them more. The more you think about something\u2026you guessed it-the more it becomes your \u2018state'.\n\nThink about the words that you're using to describe situations. Turn "negative words" into "challenge" words.\xa0Instead of something being a "disaster", call it an "adventure."