Phillip shares his thoughts on the benefits of spite. Micah brings up pointed questions. K Sera may (or may not be) spiteful in board games.
Show Notes:
Bad experiences do not always provide a good scale for positive experiences
Simple tricks that can help you stay motivated
Min-Maxing Thinking is suboptimal
K Sera After Thoughts
- Some good tunes for a melancholy mood.
- All in all, spite is better than being a doormat.
- Micah’s view on competition is once again at odds with mine. While I agree that competition can be as Micah envisions in some instances, competition doesn’t have to be this eat or be eaten philosophy. It can be mutually beneficial. It’s a matter of situation and perception. Micah has a very antagonistic worldview where I tend towards cooperative competition. This division in our thinking is curious to me. Clearly our perception of social threat is very different.
- Failure is an option, ok? If you take every setback as a mark against your self worth, your personal growth will suffer for it. Take failures as an opportunity to try again with a new strategy or move on to something different.
Phillip After Thoughts
-Back in the day I left a job because of spite. I didn’t like my job and I started developing a terrible attitude. The crazy thing is my coworkers, my boss, and the vast majority of the staff were all fantastic and amazing people. The problem was me. I was the problem. I couldn’t perform the way I wanted to because there was a glitch in my thinking. One day one of my projects didn’t go over very well and a more senior engineer had to take over; this was quite the setback professionally but instead of learning and realizing that failure is an option, I said “the spiteful move is to find a new job.” Almost later of job hunting, my boss was supportive of my move; and my go-to work-life mentor showed me the ropes on how to escape-velocity to a bigger company and to a better title. I knowingly left a great group of engineers to go somewhere else, out of spite, because of my own issues. I am not going to follow up and say if it went well or not, that’s not the point of this afterthought. The message I want to get across is this: if you’re relying on spite to make decisions; then you’re already desperate, you just don’t know it yet.