54: Anxious, Avoidant or Secure? Talking Attachment Style with Dr. Morgan Anderson
This episode features clinical psychologist and relationship coach Dr. Morgan Anderson, who dives deep with us into the various attachment styles to help us understand how we can work through the challenges each style faces, heal, and become more secure in who we are to attract more secure relationships.\xa0
- Getting to know Dr. Morgan Anderson\xa0 [2:13]
\u201cI knew from a very young age that I wanted to help people. Even from a young age I just wanted to help people and get to know people \u201d
- Dealing with Pain [7:58]
\u201cI knew that not dealing with the wound is going to hurt me again and again.\u201d
- To the People Who Are Stuck [11:00]
\u201cWe actually owe it to ourselves to stop numbing and to feel the pain that we are feeling. I am in pain and I need to change.\u201d
- Healing and Relationships [15:30]
\u201cSome people come into your life to open your eyes to something different. Rejection is redirection.\u201d
- The Attachment Theory [22:35]
\u201cThere is a unique attachment style for every person. All of us have different pieces from each attachment style.\u201d
- Anxious Attachment [27:52]
\u201cFear of abandonment is very strong. You\u2019re not just born with anxious attachment.\u201d
\u201cSometimes we get so fearful of speaking what\u2019s on our mind and being vulnerable because they\u2019re going to think something about us and leave us.\u201d
- Dismissive or Avoidant Attachment Style [29:57]
\u201cIt is the fear that I\u2019m not good enough or this person isn't gonna be there for me.\u201d\xa0
- Disorganized Attachment Style [31:36]
\u201cA mix of anxious and dismissive. You might just go back and forth.\u201d
- Secure Attachment Style [36:15]
\u201cBoth should decide that they want a secure relationship. You need someone who\u2019s willing to create that secure attachment with you.\u201d\xa0
- Tips on Becoming More Secure [44:56]\xa0
\u201cAwareness is the first step. Do a relationship inventory.\u201d
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